Daily Archives: July 2, 2014

Allergic to Life

Weather was lovely today, cool, alternating between gray and sunny.

My skin and scalp allergies decided it would be a lovely day to act out and start covering me in itchy hives that are driving me nuts.

I cleaned Mrs. R’s house. Had to collect payment from him which sent him into a tirade. I waited over an hour and asked several times for it, and got a lecture on “where is she getting all this extra money.” Um, dude, it’s your wife, take it up  with her. He really irked me. Nothing new there.

By then my irritation and anxiety were crawling into the danger zone. Picked up my kid, came home, calmed down.

Went to the grocery store which was crawling with people with overflowing carts taking forever in line. While I had an armful of stuff and not one said, oh, I have 500 items, why don’t you go ahead with your six? Ass trash.

I just feel out of sorts. The anxiety has reached fever pitch but for no good reason. My stomach is knotted. The hives are making me want to use a potato peeler to scrape off all my skin. I am looking forward to little more than going to sleep yet if the pattern of late holds, by the time I can go to bed, I will be wide awake.

Paranoia is creeping in. Nose itching, someone’s coming or calling. Ear itching, someone is talking trash about me. Maintenance guys working next door…they’re spying on me so they can find a reason to evict me. Everyone’s moving out at the first of the month…Oh, god they’re selling the building out from under me, they lied. (God knows it couldn’t have anything to do with the six notices they’ve sent out this year about people not paying rent on time and them all possibly being evicted or choosing to leave because they are so far behind…Nooo, scumbag brain sees the worst possible scenario and runs with it and logic is frowned upon in this establishment.)

Earlier, I felt good and actually liked being me. I felt content. Accepting of myself and all my flaws.

Right now, I hate everything about being me. Especially these itchy maddening fucking hives. And paranoid scumbag brain that NEVER functions the same way two days in a row. It’s exhausting. It’s frustrating. It’s…

My lot in life.

Bum Bin. Derriere garbage.


And tomorrow…I may be on a mood upswing.

I’d sell my soul to the devil just for stable moods and a brain that doesn’t betray me daily.

Byron on an Unagitated Life

“I doubt sometimes whether a quiet & unagitated life would have suited me, yet I sometimes long for it.” – ByronFiled under: quoth Tagged: bipolar, Byron, quote

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Back From The Brink

And just as quickly as my mood plunged, it’s come back up. Today I felt almost normal, despite the fact that nothing has changed for the better (except, perhaps, for our spectacular 97-degree weather…..I love the heat) and we’re going to lose our cable/Internet by Monday. There just isn’t enough money to keep all three utilities and the car insurance going. Oh well, as Dr. Awesomesauce says, sometimes life just sucks.

I think having some household items cleaned up, ready to sell, and posted on Craigslist helps a little. Will has been busting his buns getting it all done, and I think on some level it’s given him some control over the situation and made him feel better. His happy mood has evidently rubbed off on me as well, which is why I was able to go to my primary-care doctor today and say in all honesty that I’m OK.

It was weird in a way, going to a doctor other than Dr. A, even though Dr. L has been my internist for over 20 years. I’m supposed to go in every 3-6 months for what I call “maintenance” (late-middle-aged body + diabetes = lots of MD visits) and I hadn’t been in for over a year. Mostly, we chatted about Will, who is also his patient, and the admiration he holds for my husband on account of his attitude toward fighting the cancer.

“You know, I’m only saying this because he’s NOT, but I thought for sure he was going to be dead within two months,” Dr. L admitted as he gave me a brief physical exam. “If it had been the kind of cancer we all feared, he would’ve been. And some people with his diagnosis will say ‘to hell with it’, give up, and go home to die. But now, look at him—he’s gotten better, he looks great, and he’s not going anywhere.”

I felt proud, listening to him talk that way about Will. I have developed a sort of magical thinking when it comes to the cancer—as long as he’s well enough to do his usual activities and enjoy his life, the tumors won’t grow. I see him bopping around the house on his appointed rounds, whistling a happy tune, walking the dog around the property, working on his models, and I think: He’s fine. Nothing bad can possibly happen.

As a clinician, I know better. As a wife…..well, it works for me.

And there he is in the La-Z-Boy, fast asleep in front of the TV, tired out after the day’s exertions in the heat. It used to drive me crazy when he’d nap in the evenings when I was awake and wanting to talk; by contrast, he’s an early-morning person and gets chatty just about the time I wake up, when I’m hating the world and neither know nor care about what to have for dinner.

Now I’m happy just to glance over at him and see that he’s still here, still being and doing and loving, and I know he’s the main reason why I have once again been pulled back from the brink. How can I even think about letting go of life when he’s fighting so hard for his?