Daily Archives: August 5, 2013


My heart is buzzing
My pulse is racing
I am pacing
I’ve discovered my heart
Wish I had from the start
My heart is opening
Wounds are exposing
My vulnerability
It hides behind my availability
No longer can it be ignored
It doesn’t matter who has scored
It’s my chance at a dance
One final romance

The Truth About Me

In truth I’m me
No more, no less to see
I am complicated
My past cannot be duplicated
I’ve succeed and failed
My coffin has been nailed
I’m bipolar and sick
I’ve thrown tantrums and fits
I was hospitalized
My future not yet realized
I had a manic episode
I thought my head might explode
I saw the future and past
It didn’t last
Two months I was insane
It is hard to explain
My logic was wrong
I kept singing the same song
Chanting and nodding
My thoughts were colliding
It’s easy to be crazy
Much harder to be lazy
I laid in the hospital bed
I banged my head
Now I have a diagnosis
It’s hard to understand the prognosis
Will it happen again
Or was it the end
I’m still just me
Look deep down inside, you’ll see
The truth is, this is who I’m meant to be


I went insane
There is no one to blame
Now I’m labeled
They think I’m unable
They’ve given me drugs
No more hugs
I’m bipolar they say
Went through hell, no more time to play
A manic episode
It made me implode
I saw demons and darkness
They clothed me in their harness
I believed I was experiencing an awakening
It left me shaking
Now I’m out of the hospital
But I still must take the pill
I’m not sure what happened or why
I thought I might die
Now I’m left to be me
I feel blind, I can’t see
Hard to see past the past
It’s what happened last
It went by so fast
What am I left with?
A diagnosis and no more gift
The gift of enlightenment
It was a false sense of entitlement

Mind Games

The mind is a beast
It comes from the east
Back to the beginning
It seems to have no ending
It endures suffering and pain
Through it all it tries to gain
You think you know
But the mind has its own go
If you move to fast, it moves too slow
It can trick you and tease you
It’s games will not please you
The mind works on its own
In pain it will moan
If you ignore it, it will scream
It doesn’t mean to be mean
You can not tame it
It will throw a fit
You must work with it in order to grow
That is the only way to truly know

What Do I Want To Be When I Grow Up?

After 40 years it’s nice to finally discover what I want to do with my life. I’ve gone back to school to become a minister/chaplain. The problem with that is getting a BA, then getting a masters degree and then completing an internship will probably take 10 years or more before I finally get a job. Being a man approaching his 50th birthday, I just don’t know if that is practical. I have retirement to be concerned with. Do I, or should I, wait to get a job when I’m 60 – 65 years old?  I don’t want to end up being a Wal-Mart greeter ’til the day I die.

I took an online assessment which helps determine the right jobs for you and the wrong jobs for you. The results are pretty much in line with similar tests I’ve taken in the past so I do think it’s valid.  If you are interested here’s the link to MAPP Assessment

Wanting to be a minister, I was pleased to see it was at the top of my list. Thinking It may be wiser to choose something else, I looked at the other jobs it recommended for me. Sadly I’m not too thrilled with the other options. Here, in no particular order, are some of the jobs that the MAPP Assessment determined were good jobs for me:















































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So there’s a partial list.  Between driving a bus, riding a bike, a train engineer, driving a taxi, or driving a limousine, it seems to think I like being on the road.  And why the hell does it think I want to volunteer for Social Services, rather than getting a paid position?  I will admit I’d love to be a model if I looked like that guy.  Oh hell, even if I wasn’t a model I’d still love to look like that guy.

Needless to say, I am not thrilled with any of these jobs, whatsoever, other than the ministry.  This is not a decision I absolutely need to make right away because I am only working towards an AA degree to then transfer to a four year college. However,  there are benefits to stating a job goal due to assistance I would receive from LA County.  The amount of assistance I would receive would be based on what job goal I’m striving for and whether or not they determine if there is a need.

For now, I’ll just stay the course and will continue to work towards my AA degree.  As I stated last week, my doctor has only approved, for now, for me to take one class each semester.  Hopefully I’ll reach the point that he’ll allow me to go full time within the next year.  Otherwise, it’s going to be a long haul to graduate by taking only one class at a time.

Maybe I can be a taxi driving minister.  I could conduct service while I drive people to the airport.  I could even officiate weddings along the way.  It may sound silly, but at least I’m thinking outside the box.

Are you working your dream job?  If not, what would you rather do?

The Versatile Blogger Award

versatile-blogger-awardMy friend Sarah over at A Place That Does Not Exist has nominated me for The Versatile Blogger Award! Hooray, somebody out there likes me, they really do! Wha? I’m a sucker for compliments on my writing ability; it’s definitely one of my vain points that I like to have stroked on occasion. And as Sarah is someone who is a talented writer and queen of snark, I certainly appreciate it coming from her (psst, I might like her — who’d've thunk it?!).

Part of this whole rigmarole is nominating people that the recipient thinks are also awesome, which (to me) makes it like a chain latter that people actually want to get. So, without further ado, here are my fifteen nominations:

1. Only See Your Good Side: http://balfourthrb.wordpress.com

2. Bipolar Christianity: http://bipolarchristianity.com/

3. The Teebeanery: http://theteebeanery.wordpress.com/

4. Mrs. Bipolarity: http://mrsbipolarity.com

5. Pollychromatic: http://pollychromatic.com/

6. Being Bipolar…Is Alot Of Work: http://ucfpeggy.wordpress.com/

7. Take a Ride on My Mood Swing: http://morgueticiasmentalhealthmausoleum.wordpress.com

8. Come Unglued: http://comeunglued.wordpress.com

9. Brain Eats Brain: http://braineatsbrain.wordpress.com/

10. Bipolar For Life: http://bipolarforlife.me/

11. How Is Bradley?: http://www.howisbradley.com/

12. so many monsters: http://heatherbat.tumblr.com/

13. The Bipolar Place: http://thebipolarplace1.wordpress.com/

14. Bipolar on Fire: http://bipolaronfire.com/

15. Her Shadowtime: http://hershadowtime.wordpress.com/

Hopefully I’ll actually remember to lovingly pester people to let them know I like them. I always hate to be a pest, yanno? But definitely, everyone on this list writes things worth reading. A few are a bit haitus-y right now, but that doesn’t take away from their talents and insights!

If any of y’all are intending to accept an pass on the award, the ‘rules’ are as follows:

1. Display the Award Certificate on your blog.
2. Announce your win with a post. Make sure to post a link back to me as a ‘thank you’ for the nomination.
3. Present 15 awards to deserving bloggers.
4. Drop them a comment to tip them off after you have linked them in the post.
5. Post 7 interesting things about yourself.

So that leaves, for me, seven interesting things to share!

1. I was a registered model… as a baby. Mom said I never actually got a gig though, due to always being the wrong size. But it still continues to amuse me to this date that I was once, nominally, a model. And, to be fair, I was stinkin’ cute as a kiddo.

2. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve moved in my life. I *think* it’s 16? It’s not a patch on my mother, who I believe is in excess of 40 moves in her life.

3. I’m a dual national — American, and British. I was born and (mainly) raised in Texas, and moved to the UK to marry a Brit. I received my second citizenship about two years ago; my kiddo was born with both (the lucky bratinka). I know that’s in my bio, but just in case y’all hadn’t made it that far!

4. I attended a prestigious art school for high school – Booker T. Washington High School for the Performing and Visual Arts in Dallas, Texas. It killed my love of making music in a hardcore way; I was a band geek, and the teacher was a fan of negative reinforcement. I don’t flourish in that sort of environment, or yanno, one where half the teachers are shit-talking me behind my back and accusing me of corrupting the school. Um… sure. Not. *shakes head* I have mild bitterness now because it would have been nice if anyone had clued in enough to try and help me, yanno? That would have been much nicer than bullshit accusations that they couldn’t even grow up enough to bring directly to me.

5.  Having that first love ruined for me, I dropped out of community college and joined the Air Force. There I was able to pursue my second love — language. I did six years as a Russian linguist, which… well. I loved the job, but hated the people and the petty bullshit politics. The number one reason I was given to stay in was that nobody could avoid office politics, so I might as well deal with them there. Yeah, no… I won that one — I married into a family business. My biggest drama is my father-in-law being a bit of a space invader, but at least I can whap him with a rolled-up newspaper if I need to! *grins*

6.  I’ve been an avid video gamer as long as I can remember. My earliest such memories were playing Atari on a Saturday morning before everyone else got up, specifically during G.I. Joe. My parents didn’t want me to watch it for some reason that I’m not sure I ever knew. I was a loyal Nintendo-ist until N64; at that point I felt the games weren’t oriented towards the more serious gamer, and I switched to Playstation. I mainly game on PC now, where my love of The Sims would have many ‘real’ gamers turning their nose up and shunning me… to which I smile, and remember getting my PC start with Civilization on Wolfenstein 3D, and MMOs before World of Warcraft made them ‘cool’.

7.  I apparently come off a lot more confident and definitive than I think I do. I’ve heard often that people think that the opinions I’m putting forth are rock solid and that arguing serves no purpose, which makes me really sad. I like offering a strong opinion because I *WANT* people to offer other opinions. I love intelligent, respectful discussion. After all, how can anyone (and I mean anyone) have a real opinion about anything until it has been shaped and tumbled about by being exposed to other viewpoints?!

So yeah… go me. *grins* Hope everyone is doing well!


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Stigma Sucks Sunday: A Recap

Reblogged from Mrs Bipolarity:

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Yikes! What a week for stigma.

Dr Phil--a freaking psychologist (supposedly) literally said that the insane 'suck on rocks and bark at the moon.'  How disappointing for a public figure, especially one who is in the field of psychology to say such crap.  Last I checked, this bipolar gal has neither sucked on a single rock, nor barked at anything, let alone the moon.

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Wow, the things I miss by not watching TV! I am seriously considering starting a petition on Change.org to get these cretins to apologize to all of us normal people who happen to suffer from mental illness. Anybody on board?


I adore hermiting. I need to hermit often actually. Recharge, mull things over, give my brain a rest, put things mentally where they need to go, disconnect and go on auto pilot, watch a film based on Karen Carpenters life where the majority of the portrayal is done by Barbies, not wear a bra, do all the domestic duties I don’t have time to do during the week, listen to various music and play mental Tetris with this or that. I could happily hermit for dayyyyyys. I had no freelance work lingering undone, no pressing errands and a post depressive episode, long work week, house to clean up. My spinal issues are a constant pain and I often get angry when I have things I need to get done and my back has other ideas. It’s difficult for me to “be kind to myself and accept my limitations” whether they be physical or mental. I believe those are fantastic things for others to do for themselves but I often end up feeling as though my various limitations yield me defective in some ways. 

Mental Illness as an act of rebellion?

I read this article the other day, and no, I didn’t save the link so I won’t make any direct quotes. But it kind of steamed me up. Not because I necessarily disagreed with the writer having a valid point on some level. But because articles of that nature completely invalidate the very real struggles some of us with mental disorders have.

He surmised that mental illness in this day and age is an act of rebellion against the oppressive aspects of society- sucky jobs, sucky relationships, sheer laziness. He himself claimed he suffered from a bout of depression and felt in a way even his own depression was an act of rebellion against that which oppressed him in his life.

I am not naive. I don’t deny-as I have witnessed firsthand- that a number of people do claim a disability yet function fine in every other aspect of life outside of a job. I knew one in the tiny town I grew up in who claimed back injuries that crippled him. Yet on any given day he was fixing his roof, hunting, fishing, taking swings at his wife and kids, drinking like a fish.  To this day he is still drawing disability and yet still totally functional outside of a job environment. So, no, I don’t deny people like him exist and they suck.

On the flip side, you have people like me, who have struggled our entire lives with an illness that has impacted every aspect of our lives, not just the oppressive or unsavory ones.

Were I merely rebelling against that which scares me or oppresses me then I’d be out dancing on weekends and going to carnivals and amusement parks and concerts. I wouldn’t panic at the thought of taking my kid to a crowded water park. I wouldn’t have a panic attack when a guy seems to be flirting with me. I wouldn’t get into such a non functional funk that I have a two and half foot high pile of laundry in the floor. I wouldn’t sporadically break down in public crying for a reason I won’t even remember two hours later.

I suppose I take everything way too personally even when it isn’t meant to be and that is my flaw. But the article just got my dander up. Most stuff I read on line is a tiny splinter under my skin. It’s annoying, a little sore, but it resides in the background after awhile. When something is still getting my dander up two days later, then it’s something that struck a chord in me, for good or for bad.

And the notion that the mentally disabled are simply milking it because we’re too lazy or of too weak of character to tough it out makes my blood boil. I am sure there are those out there who turn a minor bout of “the blues” into a major depressive episode, especially with certain doctors willing to hand them the keys to the pharmaceutical kingdom.

Most of us are not that way.

Most of us are actually embarrassed by our condition. Guilt ridden how it negatively affects those around us. Completely demoralized by our own lack of independence and ability to contribute to our own existence, as well as to the rest of the world. We are the living dead at times and yet we are surrounded by people who don’t understand and keep telling us to suck it up and we try and we fail and it makes us feel even worse. Which actually compounds the disorders we’re fighting. Unsupportive people are like a toxin that spreads through our systems and poisons us further.

I will admit, I do have a rebellious personality, and I always have. I have marched to my own drummer since I was 5 years old and preferred to hang out with the crazy drunken cat lady rather than other children. Tell me not to do something, I want to do it. Tell me to do it, I don’t want to do it. Back in my teens and early twenties I was just immature enough to go with it.

At some point I realized rebelling for the sake of rebelling was stupid. What is the point of rejecting a notion-something you had previously wanted to do- just because someone else suggested it. It’s just dumb.

So now I choose my acts of rebellion wisely. Like refusing to conform to whatever society’s idea of a normal mom is. I will never own a mini van. I will never wear floral print dresses or listen to lite rock or decorate my home with dainty throw pillows and adorable matching everything. And it’s not because I am rebelling idly, it’s simply because that is not who I have ever been and just because I am supposed to become soccer mommy doesn’t mean I am going to sacrifice my identity. My uterus performed its duty. That is all. I am macabre, I am goofy, I am unconventional. And all those things society seems to frown upon…are the aspects of myself I actually think are endearing.

Is that an act of rebelling? Sort of, going against the status quo. But it’s in order to remain who I have always been. It’s not idle rebellion. More self assertive rebellion.

Now my mental disorders, which have existed since I was a preteen…That’s not rebellion. That’s just my cross to bear. Because when the depression kicks in, I could run ten miles and have all those happy endorphins or whatever coming out in truckloads…and my brain still tells me I am sad. So no, I will never be convinced I am simply claiming mental illness because I am lazy or rebelling.

But as the counselors have said, maybe I take it all so personally because it’s not something I haven’t felt about myself.

And therein lies the rub. It’s NOT how I feel about myself. I know my disorders are real. But I know it’s how a lot of people see me and it gets under my skin. I mean, pretty much seven days a week I am subjected to someone close to me making a derisive comment about “lazy people on disability” and “wellfarers.”

If I could find a job this minute that would be willing to take into account my various periods of functionality and shutting down, I would jump on it and hump its leg. Not being self sufficient kills me on a daily basis. It’s not how I was raised. But isn’t insanity doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome? And that’s how it is with me trying to hold a job. I crack under the pressure or I have a bad manic or depressive episode and suddenly I become undesirable and expendable. I went through 16 jobs in 12 years, never holding one more than 17 months. The counselors, the doctors, they all told me I needed disability because I couldn’t rely on my own stability. I fought them for a long time. I didn’t want to be *that* person.

But I am that person. And since going on disability, I have managed to keep a roof over head, paying my rent every month like clockwork. Putting the money right back into the economy. Not taking advantage of any assistance programs I don’t absolutely need. Trying to barter with people for things I need by cleaning house or running errands.

I make an effort.

I try hard.

I just can’t seem to kick ass on this bipolar and panic bullshit.

So to have it reduced to something trivial like “rebelling” because life is too oppressive…is offensive. It is invalidating. It is ridiculous.

And I will go to hell for this, no doubt, but sometimes I wish mental illness was infectious and I could just pass it on to all these assholes who don’t even try to understand just how hard it is to live with this shit. Walk in my shoes before you make a judgment. Until then, fuck you.

Leave it to me to take a simple internet article about ONE person’s opinion and make it all about me and righteous indignation.

I guess in that respect I am a narcissist.

But the fact I recognize that and can admit and feel bad for it kind of indicates it’s a low level narcissism.


What do my followers think? Is mental illness our form of rebellion because we’re too weak and lazy to cope with the difficulty of life?

Feedback is welcome, and also, appreciated.