Author Archives: Steve Comer

The Support Staff

I am of the opinion that going through a mental illness is at least equally difficult for the close family and friends as it is for the person experiencing the illness. That might sound surprising, but there are a lot of illnesses that are like that, like dementia, for instance. The reason I say this […]

Happy Drunk

This is just a short little update. Everyone is busy these next couple weeks so why not keep this short? I have pretty much eliminated drinking from my life. I haven’t quit by any means, but I have gotten to the point where I am able to have one or two and stop. I only […]

Going Cold

Have you ever listened to people talk about gambling? They would have you believe that cards or chips or coins or chairs have a special voodoo to them. No one seems to question the lunacy of saying that a machine or chair or table is “cold”, as if those things have any kind of determinism […]

23 and Me

A couple of months ago I was contacted by the genetics company 23 and Me to participate in a genetics study on bipolar. I have been talking to my wife for almost two years about doing the 23 and Me thing anyway, just because I thought it was pretty cool and wanted to have a […]

Rock Bottom

I hate the term “rock-bottom” and all of the sloppy metaphors that are associated with it. Here is the problem: you only know where the bottom was in retrospect. When you are at your lowest point, you honestly have no idea how much further down you can go. So that makes it nothing at all […]

The Haircut

I have eczema. I have had it ever since I can remember. I had always had a plethora of creams and shampoos around my house. I use soaps and detergents made for sensitive skin and all that jazz. I could do more. For instance, my deodorant is known to be very harsh on skin and […]


It is an extremely common thing for people who are around depressed people to feel like they have to walk on eggshells. People have said this to me many times: ‘oh, we didn’t want to mention it because we thought it would upset you’, or ‘I don’t even know how to approach you about this […]

Time for some B & R

Blame and Responsibility These two things drive a huge amount of the content people process in therapy. It is an incredibly difficult subject for almost every living person, but the lack of accurately attributing blame and responsibility often feels like the keystone in a mentally ill person’s psychology. I would like to note here that […]

In Crisis

With all the hurricanes and earthquakes and fires and everything happening lately, I have seen a lot of footage of people being rescued. You know the image: person lying in a stretcher, being placed into the back end of an ambulance; usually an oxygen mask on their face. They look hurt, but it is an […]


One of the more curious aspects of my depression when it gets very deep and is sustained for awhile, is that I begin to feel very disconnected. I suppose you’ve heard that before, but allow me to explain further, maybe it isn’t quite what you think. You know those dreams that are so lifelike, so […]