It feels like I haven’t blogged in a long time, but I see that’s just not true (Hello, distorted thinking!). Maybe the disconnect comes from playing Marco Polo with some of my friends back in Iowa and Minnesota. If you’re not familiar, MP is a messaging app that creates little videos. It was my friend, Cheryl’s, genius idea to use it, so that we could see and hear each other while giving updates.
I’ve taken my buddies to the Flea Market and introduced them to the baristas at my new coffee shop-home. They’ve toured my duplex and The Peach Barn (Fried Pies!). Most importantly, I’ve shared the ups and downs of my illness as my rheostats rebooted after the electrical surge of moving. That’s something I’ve only done here in my blog, where words can be safely crafted and kept separate from a voice and face that feel too vulnerable to share.
In real-time, I try not to unload when my moods deep-cycle. I might mention it in passing, or say “I’m having a hard day.” Right or wrong, I believe too much truth will break the people I love. And I can’t bear the uncomfortable silence or awkward attempts at sympathy that usually follow.
But, I needed support. I needed to be real. So, there were blubbery posts, and manic posts, and little videos where I looked and sounded like a zombie. No one ran screaming into the night. No one shamed me. In fact, the love and support that flowed back to me helped more than I can say. I thank my friends for that. Thank you, guys.
It’s still weird, living here on the Moon, where huge fireworks displays light up every front yard on the Fourth of July, and fried bologna sandwiches are a restaurant menu item. But, when I wake in the morning, and the first thought that floats up out of the dark is I’ve made a huge mistake, I can gather more and more evidence to the contrary and send that distorted thought packing. It still has to shuffle off into 100 degree and 90-something percent humidity, but shuffle off it does. All I need do is shut the door and whisper, …Polo.