Today has not been a very good day for me. I spent much of it wondering if I should quit my job or not. The people are amazing, I love them, and they keep me laughing. But today I witnessed something that genuinely shocked me. You see my place of employment has certain food items that are sold for certain prices. A couple of weeks ago while all the big bosses were out of town a women came thru and order ice cream in a cup. We have a specific container that this is put in and a specific amount for what we charge. This woman wanted ice cream put into a different container basically because she would get more ice cream for the same money. When our manager that day tried to explain the difference and that we couldn’t do what she wanted and charge the price she wanted. The woman literally cussed her out, using the c*** name and several other unnecessary comments. Mind you this whole situation was like a 5 minute ordeal. It wasn’t easily dealt with and it ended with the woman leaving with out general managers number. Fast forward to today. I pick up these to cups of ice cream(the wrong cups) and I say, ” are we really going to give her these?” I was told yes and handed a gift card to give her as well. Then she proceeded to act like she was getting charged too much for what she was getting. When all the time she was getting probably twice as much ice cream as she should have been getting.
Anyway, it made me sick. It made me very upset. My first thought was if we aren’t going to stand for something what’s the point. Why do we have prices and specific ways we do something if we are just going to change them and adjust when someone throws a fit. Did I say I couldn’t believe it?? Well, I couldn’t. I am all for making things right and always being as nice and friendly as we can be…..but there has to be a line, there has to be some things that we won’t stand for. I guess it hurts me more because these are people who profess to be Christians and have a group of stores and people that want to seek to do the right thing. How is rewarding someone for extremely bad behavior good for anyone?? Most of all your employees and anyone else that may witness these transactions and issues. I am honestly blown away by this. I still can’t really believe it. I will be seeking different employment in the near future. What’s that song? “You’ve gotta stand for something or you will fall for anything”. I believe that is true and I increasingly believe that more people should be willing to stand for something. And that more people should infact stand on what is right!
I don’t know anyone that would have faulted my bosses for not catering to this women even to the point of asking her not to return. And it isn’t fair to those people that pay what they are supposed to pay or get the amount that is supposed to be give. It’s not fair to me. I try to do the right thing. I know that there are times I fail and fail miserably. But I am always conscious of and try to make sure that I am behaving in a way that people see good in me. But also that people know that I stand for something and won’t allow certain things in my home or around me.
We have become a people that very rarely if ever stand. We let people who act badly and talk badly influence who we are and what we do. We allow those people to call us names, or tell us we are wrong, when in fact we are right! We should be standing and shouting. Not sitting and cowering. We should be standing together and fighting for what is right instead of allowing a select few to keep us quiet.
You stand for the national anthem. You just do. You put your right hand over your heart and show respect for not only the amazing country that we live in but the men and women who have fought and died protecting and fighting for us to be free. Why is it so hard to understand that sitting or kneeling is disrespectful, period. It doesn’t matter who you are: if you are fighting social injustice, or race relations, or the fact that black men are dying at a rapidly growing rate in this country because no one will stand up. Colin Kaepernick is a punk kid who should have his butt whooped. While I do agree that there is an epidemic of social injustice in this country specificly in black communities disrespecting our flag and our country is not the way to draw attention to it. I will leave that there because I do not have any more knowledge on the race issue. I struggle with it because I don’t see race and I don’t understand why I am the one that’s wrong here. But that’s for another time. And maybe one day I will have a friend that’s close enough I can have a real conversation and ask my thousands of questions.
Back to standing!! You stand for what you believe. Every time you let someone convince you not to you let a little peace of yourself go. I am all for picking your battles and making change where you can. But sometimes all you need to do is stand and that is it.
So for now and for the rest of my life I will stand. I will stand against customers who behave horribly, I will stand with the police and the firefighters, EMTS. Even when some of them behave badly I will still stand beside them. I will stand beside the men and women who fight for our country and get basically nothing in return except a body that is falling apart and in many cases a mind that isn’t too much better if it isn’t worse. I will stand and I will scream. I will get mad and run my mouth I will quit jobs or stop my kids from participating in things that we can’t stand up for.
Mostly, I will stand for the flag and our country because I know that without this country my Bipolar probably never would have been diagnosed, much less treated, mostly successfully. Or at least in a way that has completely changed my life. This country and its soldiers have given me and you more than you could ever have gotten alone. The soldiers in this country deserve more respect than an over paid, rich, mixed race kid kneeling forniut country’s song!! My grand fathers and my husband deserve more respect and they deserve for all of us to STAND UP!! Because if we don’t who else will??
Be blessed. Feel free to chime in. I have strong thoughts but I am always willing to consider others opinions.