Daily Archives: February 7, 2015

I was directed to this post by a Facebook comment.
I know that people are all on separate sides o this issue. I am really trying to find fault in a series that I have read. But I am having a hard time, aside from sex before being married I do not understand what the problem is. I understand that there are people who do not participate in the sexual aspects of this book. That is fine! But to condemn or act like someone that does enjoy these out of the box things is evil or wicked I think is a serious over reaction.

As far as weather it’s pornography or not, that I don’t know. I actually feel like the lack of open communication and minds on this subject is part of what contributes to abuse. Time after time you here , especially children of abuse say they thought it was wrong but that it was someone they loved and so they thought it was normal, or at least something they shouldn’t talk about. Our children and women are being exploited and abused because we keep our mouths shut.
While I absolutely believe what happens between you and your husband/wife is sacred I’ve met too many young girls or women that have no idea what they need to do because no one has ever really talked to them. We put a big red stop sign over the word sex and hope that when our girls get married they aren’t abused and that if they happen to find themselves in that situation they will know it’s wrong by and get out. How could they possibly know? Did someone ever tell them that if their spouse is using sex in any way that THAT is not healthy.

My thing is this if my husband and I have plain boring sex or sex with toys, and role playing, and yes being tied up or spanked that’s really none of anyone’s business. But to make people feel evil or wicked for what goes on in their marital bedroom isn’t right. Obviously there is zero understanding or tolerance. Please notice that I speak of a consensual marital sexual relationship here. Anything else is wrong, period. But to insinuate that somehow this one movie will be the downfall of society is a little far fetched.

Lastly, I have the up most respect and compassion for people who are abused especially as children. It breaks my heart that people are forced to live through that and that none of the adults in their worlds stop it or protect them. NO ONE should never be exposed or forced to do anything that they don’t want to do. No child should ever have their trust and body violated by someone who is supposed to be protecting them. I just don’t think that this book/movie rises to the height that some people seem to be taking it.
Also, a note on pornography. I HATE it!! And I believe it is truly demeaning, however it is something those people choose to do and I am not the one to judge that. And as sad as it may be sex movie or not abusers are going to abuse and if the people(adults) around them stay silent THAT is the true travesty and will indeed be the downfall of this earth. We can’t stop it. That’s the way God made it. But as an adult in this world that has real world experience with abuse I won’t allow anyone in my circle to suffer in silence. If I k ow of or suspect abuse I will be speaking out and I WILL not be silent as too many adults have been in the past.

I’m sure I’ve stepped on some toes here. That wasn’t really my intention. But if people are going to raise their voice against something they haven’t actually read or truly researched for themselves I’m going to speak out on the opposite side. Especially, when the facts are grossly misstated.