It’s amazing what you find on Facebook sometimes. I was just perusing my newsfeed and found a gem of a post about empaths—people who are exquisitely sensitive to the world around them and everything in it. To say that this describes me almost to a T would be the understatement of the year…..and if I didn’t know better, I’d swear it’s not bipolar, but being an empath that makes me the way I am. Read on:
“Feeling others emotions and taking them on as your own: This is a huge one for empaths. To some they will feel emotions off those near by and with others they will feel emotions from those a vast distance away, or both. The more adept empath will know if someone is having bad thoughts about them, even from great distance.”
Hoo, boy. I can feel the vibes from miles away whenever one of my family members is pissed off or feeling sorry for themselves. Even if nothing is said. I don’t always DO something about it—sometimes these things have to run their course, and it’s best if I leave bad enough alone because it can be triggering for me—but I sure can sense it.
“Others will want to offload their problems on you, even strangers: An empath can become a dumping ground for everyone else’s issues and problems, which, if they’re not careful, can end up as their own.”
You can say THAT again. People I’ve never met before will often come up to me and tell me their whole life story, and I’ve never understood why. Maybe I have an honest face, or I just seem like someone they feel safe with. Either way, it happens pretty often.
“Addictive personality: Alcohol, drugs, sex, are to name but a few addictions that empaths turn to, to block out the emotions of others. It is a form of self protection in order to hide from someone or something.”
“Drawn to healing, holistic therapies and all things metaphysical: Although many empaths would love to heal others, they can end up turning away from being healers (even though they have a natural ability for it), after they’ve studied and qualified, because they take on too much from the one they are trying to heal. Especially if they are unaware of their empathy. Anything of a supernatural nature is of interest to empaths and they don’t surprise or get shocked easily.”
This is one of the reasons why I became a nurse, and then wanted out so badly after a couple of decades. It’s like an empath to give and give and give until there’s nothing left, and that’s exactly what I did. No wonder I bailed…..and no wonder I’m thinking of going back.
“Creative: From singing, dancing, acting, drawing or writing an empath will have a strong creative streak and a vivid imagination. Love of nature and animals: Being outdoors in nature is a must for empaths and pets are an essential part of their life.”
Well, DUH. But you knew that already.
“It is impossible for an empath to do things they don’t enjoy. Feels like they are living a lie by doing so. To force an empath to do something they dislike through guilt or labelling them as idle will only serve in making them unhappy. Gets bored or distracted easily if not stimulated: Work, school and home life has to be kept interesting for an empath or they switch off from it and end up daydreaming or doodling. It’s for this reason many empaths get labelled as being lazy.”
Dingdingding! We have a winner! Boredom is one of the worst things in the world for me; I get full of ennui and attitude, and things never go well once I get to that point.
And then, there’s this:
“Can appear moody, shy, aloof, disconnected: Depending on how an empath is feeling will depend on what face they show to the world. They can be prone to mood swings and if they’ve taken on too much negative will appear quiet and unsociable, even miserable. An empath detests having to pretend to be happy when they’re sad, this only adds to their load (makes working in the service industry, when it’s service with a smile, very challenging) and can make them feel like scuttling under a stone.”
Is the guy who wrote this stuff good, or what? There’s a lot more in the same vein, all of which leads me to conclude that I am, indeed, an empath. I’ve never seen anything that describes me so well, and it’s amazing to think that there are other people out there with the same characteristics. It turns out I even know a few of them.
And yes, I’m still bipolar. :-)