Monthly Archives: May 2012

More stuff

A few more things I notice, in random order, just to keep track of them

Libido: It really is back. And I nearly had forgotten how nice it is to actually not have to work for an hour or so to get an orgasm ūüėÄ. It just makes the occasional quickie so much more enjoyable ūüėÄ

Emotions: all over the place. And no PMS. This stuff where I cry at the drop of a hat, didn¬īt remember that. Nothing particularly dramatic, just that my throat closes and tears come to my eyes seeing pictures of sick animals or hearing about some happy event or whatever. Total sentimental. It isn¬īt really unpleasant.. only unexpected.¬†

The anger stuff hasn¬īt reappeared fortunately, even if I do get these moments of feeling overwhelmed/out of control for the most stupid stuff. Like, a jacket getting tangled in a¬†clothes hanger. Go figure.¬†

Teh body. Going on those meds made me put on about 5 kg (10 pounds) and I was overweight before. Two of these kilos have gone already (have been avoiding the sweets for a few weeks now though) and I LOOK different. From both birth control and psych meds, somehow my upper chest and shoulders and neck all ..blow up. Difficult to describe, but I just get this weight lifter physique in my upper body, while below, I seem pregnant. Lots of it apparently is water retention, and that is getting a bit better. I soon might fit again in jackets and blouses from 2 years ago. 

A few thoughts on procrastination: This bane of my life actually got a lot worse while on the meds, just with a different motivation. Without meds, I procrastinate because certain things make me feel anxious. On meds, I procrastinate because I just don¬īt care. Both are damaging, in particular to my work situation. So I will have to establish a routine where I work specifically on the stuff which makes me angst, with EFT, until it doesnt any more. Or something. Still trying to put that together.

Still, one thing is progressing, which has been put on hold more or less since I started medication 2 years ago. Yesterday I downloaded a writing software, in order to put the hundreds of annotations, character drawings, outlines and whatnot I made for that crime novel I was working on in a shape which allows me to finally DO something with it. It has kind of run away on its own, with several different plots and outcomes, and I need to decide which one to work on. I can¬īt wait to have a few hours of uninterrupted time to start on that, and that alone is a completely different situation.. until a few weeks ago, the thought of the unfinished thing in my computer and notebooks made me feel uncomfortable, nothing else. Now my fingertips are burning to start working on it again ūüėÄ.¬†

Overall, mostly positive stuff, I¬īd say. I sure hope things continue like that!

On Being British

Last summer, I obtained my British citizenship. While I was relieved to have it finally done and over with, I wasn’t terribly excited by it. I wasn’t getting to put it to use; there haven’t been any elections since then, for example. But this weekend? This weekend is my first chance to properly celebrate being a Brit, and I am quite pleased to.

You see, this is the Diamond Jubilee bank holiday weekend. This weekend, we celebrate sixty years of Queen Elizabeth II’s reign over the United Kingdom and the Commonwealth. Being an American by birth (a citizenship I still retain), I have been enamoured of the monarchy since I was a wee little child. I think most American children do – it’s sort of a romantic notion, being a part of a royal family. And while the role is mainly ceremonial to the running of the country, I still think that the Queen is good value for money. She’s just… the royal personage does a good job of demonstrating what noblesse oblige should be, of being a noble symbol for a proud country with a long history and worthy heritage. But as said, my opinions were formed in childhood (to include the bog standard demonization of Prince Charles as unworthy), and I’ve not felt the need to question them in adulthood. Me likey monarchy, bring on the coronation chicken, etc.

It will also be nice to finally be doing something that reminds me that I am legit British now. It was something I never imagined in my life, not even when I was enjoying the crap out of British comedy shows on public access. I thought that I might try for French citizenship upon my successful attainment of the language in high school (since fallen to nearly nothing via disuse), but that was before I realized the existence of the Eurozone for living and working, and really – I didn’t take that dream seriously. It seemed unlikely at best (knowing what hoops one has to jump through to attain citizenship in another country), and completely improbable at worst. The marriage route is definitely the fastest non-heritage route to citizenship, but I’m not one to exploit a system. I would have never thought to try to marry someone just to move to another place. Bad juju, yanno?

So then, what DOES it mean to me to be British? It means being part of a culture that is less afraid about questioning and mocking itself than the American culture. I know how different this gulf is based on ‘friends’ in America calling me a traitor or threatening to be the ever-loving shit out of me for applying the same approach towards improving America (which I always have done, but because I shut my mouth on my opinions during my military time, people thought I didn’t have opinions!). It means having a much better understanding of sarcasm, and being able to take a bit more on the chin. It means quizcoms and BBC Parliament and cackling along at the witty riposte that both contain. It means having health care that actually works; it’s not perfect, but my life is massively enhanced by the NHS. It’s a far from perfect place, mind – there’s a redonk number of security cameras, this country coined the phrase ‘nanny state’, and there is an unhealthy obsession with celebrity bordering on the insane. There’s casual racism (which is hit or miss; I think it’s generally less offensive than being overly PC), there’s a frightening amount of entitlement, and the government seems to love chasing the worst policies coming out of the United States. But that’s okay, insomuch that I can say that without getting threatened with death or assault for having an opinion (which, I suspect, is often meant as ‘sarcasm’ coming from Americans, but as they absolutely do.not.get sarcasm…).

So long and short – I am happy to be here. I am happy to be a citizen. This isn’t a knock on America, which has its awesome points as well (which will be taught to my child(ren) along with the good and bad of British as they grow up). All in all, I am glad to be of both, but will definitely enjoy celebrating the newest this weekend.

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At A Loss

So, for those that don’t know, I have an 18 year old daughter that has just started therapy. So far she has been diagnosed with Generalized¬†Anxiety¬†Disorder. Throw in that she has ADHD but does not take medication for it. So, obviously she has some issues, look at her mother! LOL And well, look at her father. :/ No one on his side of the family is very sane… So the odds were against her from day one, I’m afraid.

At any rate, I don’t know how to help. I’m helping the best that I can, but I’m afraid that is not enough. She has no friends. And I really can’t blame people for not wanting to be her friend sometimes. She is¬†brutally¬†honest, but can really be sweet and has a good heart, but damn is she mean! It makes me so sad to see how venomous she ¬†can be.

She doesn’t live at home, she lives with her boyfriend. She has been living with him since September. But they don’t appear to be too happy at the present time. She doesn’t work because of her panic attacks. He just quit a good paying job to work at a gas station store. So, they are now living on minimum wage and about 20 hours. On top of that, she just got braces a couple months ago, and hasn’t been able to go to another appointment because they can’t afford it…. I kinda warned her about this, but as always she didn’t listen to me.

She comes over here when he is at work, because she can’t stand to be alone. I can understand to a certain degree. But she plops here on the couch watching Life of and American Teenager on Netflix…. Ok, I have a 5 year old that should not be listening to this crap. She has a wall in our basement that has the stuff that was in her room, that my husband an I moved out, because after asking her several times, she never did it. My husband is trying to make the basement a nice place to game, and well, when you can’t comfortably leave the stairs because all of her crap that she refused to go though is still there, we have a problem.

I have asked her to just go through the crap and throw away what she doesn’t want anymore, and we will store the rest. But, no. Apparently that is too much to ask for.

I can appreciate that she has issues. And at first I was really having a hard time with it. I was of the mind “Damn, just get up and do something! There is nothing wrong with you!” But then I remembered, you can’t see anything wrong with me either… And I had a really rough patch while medicated that I didn’t do squat, and I wouldn’t go anywhere…. So, I have no room to talk, ya know?

I try to gently nudge her, but it doesn’t work. I try to listen when she talks, but I get so¬†aggravated. I just don’t know what to do to help her. Do I even help her? I mean gah! Being a parent who suffers from Bipolar having to cope with the fact that your first born has a disorder or two herself, is rough. I want her to grow up and not stand in her way, and I am trying to let go and let her be¬†independent…. I just don’t know what to do. It makes me so sad and I’m at a loss.

what’s so bad about being bipolar?

i have not taken my bipolar diagnosis well, and that’s putting it lightly. ¬†emotions ranging from deep depression to unbridled anger fill the spaces in between absolute shock. ¬†one friend, in a noble attempt to positively reframe my perspective, pointed out that the diagnosis changes nothing. ¬†i am the same person i was before the diagnosis, except now i have a diagnosis to help me understand behavior that was already there.

strictly speaking, this is true. ¬†unfortunately it doesn’t really make me feel much better. ¬†and, i figure since my byline is “diagnosed bipolar and pissed about it” an explanation is in order.

this won’t be a comprehensive post because one of those entails doing more research than i’m in the mood for right now. ¬†i do have a few references in order and the general idea down, but i will likely write more about this in the future.

here goes…

when i first went in for treatment last december, it was because i felt depressed. ¬†i had been essentially non-functioning for several months by then and i couldn’t pull myself out of it. ¬†none of my usual tricks worked. ¬†i got to a point where if i washed a single dish, that day was successful. ¬†by the time i was finished, i would be exhausted. ¬†i wouldn’t have even gone into psych services if one of my relatives hadn’t insisted i get help. ¬†i had a brief flash of motivation, and acted on it.

up until this point, i did not like the idea of taking anti-depressants. ¬†the situation had become so dire, however, that i wanted anything that would work. ¬†living that life was absolute misery. ¬†hopeless and empty don’t begin to describe it. ¬†so i was ready for anything. ¬†therapy, meds, you name it. ¬†i started medication as soon as i could and met with a counselor to see about processing through some of the depression. ¬†psych service counselors are short-term only though so i knew i wouldn’t be able to get much done. still, any progress would be good progress.

it turned out that i would get¬†nothing done with that counselor. ¬†i told her my most memorable childhood memory, the one where my sister’s dad is on top of my mother in the living room. ¬†they have been fighting. ¬†i don’t remember the domestic violence in that particular scene but i am sure it had preceded what i was observing. ¬†i remember feeling scared. ¬†terrified. ¬†my mother is shouting to me, ‘call your grandma!’ and he is shouting, contradicting her, ‘no, don’t call her!’ ¬†i know my mother is trying to protect me, to get me out of there, and my sister’s dad is trying to make me feel like i have to choose a side, to confuse me. ¬† i don’t know what happened in the end. ¬†i just remember i am crying. ¬†it’s strange; i can even see myself crying, as if i’m watching myself from the outside. ¬†i was probably 3 or 4 years old. ¬†later i begin to suspect he was raping her. ¬†i don’t know this for sure and i don’t have the guts to ask.

the counselor stopped me cold and said i needed to go to trauma therapy. ¬†intensive trauma therapy, she said, probably for at least a year or two. ¬†i had already suspected PTSD, specifically complex PTSD, so this wasn’t particularly shocking. ¬†i stopped seeing the counselor and resolved to start intensive trauma therapy in a few months after moving back home. ¬†after all, i didn’t want to begin trauma therapy locally, move, and then have to start all over again.

the prozac worked like a charm. ¬†a little too well, perhaps. ¬†i was flying high and accomplishing things…lots and¬†lots of things. ¬†boy, i thought, this stuff is great! ¬†what was my problem before? ¬†then i wanted to accomplish EVERYthing and i put quitting smoking cigarettes at the top of the list. ¬†wellbutrin had been my drug of choice for smoking cessation, so i requested it again once we had arrived at the appropriate dose of prozac. ¬†successfully quit smoking, but then was¬†really over stimulated. ¬†i had muscle tension, anxiety and panic, jaw clenching even worse than normal, etc. so i asked the doc to switch me over to zoloft. ¬†that took away the stress alright…and just about everything else too! ¬†i didn’t care about anything and i was just happy to sit on my couch and hang out. ¬†apparently, this is called ‘complacency’ but i call it ‘what happens when modern medicine imitates mary jane’ (pot).

unfortunately being sober-stoned wasn’t going to fly either, so we did a couple more changes: changed wellbutrin to instant release 3x a day, and when that was done, switched back to prozac. ¬†this all occurred within a ~3 month period and i was a fucking¬†wreck at the end of it. ¬†no day had been alike that whole time, and i was unable to predict my functioning from one day to the next. ¬†we probably would have kept going if that psychiatrist hadn’t left the office and i hadn’t been transferred to a new one.

my first visit with her was a day before my birthday and about a week after my sister had been hospitalized for suicide threats. ¬†i was, to say the least, a fucking shit show. ¬†i hadn’t slept the night before because i spent the weekend working on a manuscript, and i had taken nuvigil to help me with that. ¬†you could say i was a bit wired by the time i showed up.

after i gave her the medication recap, it took her all of about 5 minutes to ask if i had any family that had been diagnosed with bipolar.

time came to a complete stop. ¬†i remember thinking, wait, why are you asking about bipolar? ¬†i’m here for depression. ¬†i’m not bipolar. ¬†i mean my sister was just diagnosed with bipolar but that doesn’t mean anything.

i’m sure my facial expression said the same thing. ¬†i seemed to respond in slow motion, yyyyeeeeeeessssss, mmmyyyy sssiiiiiiiiisssttteeerr wwaaass jjuuusst ddiiiaaaggnnooosseedd. ¬†my heart was sinking. ¬†i wanted to throw up.

she asked about our parents’ behavior and i explained that we had different dads and, well, my¬†mom hadn’t been diagnosed with bipolar so the thing with my sister being diagnosed doesn’t really matter, right? ¬†i think this is the only time in my entire life i tried to¬†separate myself from my sister, to distinguish between us. ¬†to highlight our differences rather than reinforce our similarities. ¬†i felt like an asshole but i was in panic mode.

then this woman asked about our parents’¬†behavior. ¬†not diagnoses, but behavior. ¬†normally, i would have been proud of this behavioral assessment, but all it was doing was bringing me back to the conclusion that i may be bipolar. ¬†shock was setting in by the time she requested another appointment for a ‘full evaluation’.

i knew based on diagnostic criteria, i would fit on the bipolar spectrum. ¬†others told me to ‘wait until it’s official’ which i just found fucking annoying. ¬†by the time she completed the full evaluation the following week, i was given an unofficial bipolar 2 diagnosis, and an official ‘mood disorder, nos’. ¬†now i couldn’t avoid it. ¬†even today, i am still grasping at second and third opinions but my hopes are pretty low at this point.

here’s the thing. ¬†depression and PTSD are not¬†necessarily chronic conditions. ¬†they both can be treated and can eventually go away at some point.

bipolar is a different animal entirely. ¬†here are some “highlights” of the bipolar beast:

  1. bipolar is with you your entire life (source: http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/bipolar-disorder/nimh-bipolar-adults.pdf)
  2. you can manage symptoms but they only go in remission, not away as in depression and PTSD (source: http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/bipolar-disorder/nimh-bipolar-adults.pdf)
  3. the primary form of treatment is medication and you should expect to be on medication for the rest of your life (source: http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/bipolar-disorder/how-is-bipolar-disorder-treated.shtml)
  4. you should also probably be in intensive psychotherapy for the rest of your life (source: http://www.nimh.nih.gov/science-news/2007/intensive-psychotherapy-more-effective-than-brief-therapy-for-treating-bipolar-depression.shtml)
  5. bipolar runs in families.  with one bipolar parent, chances of a child having bipolar are 15-30%; with two bipolar parents, chances increase 50-75% (source: http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=about_statistics_bipolar)
  6. as many as 1 in 5 bipolars complete suicide (source: http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=about_statistics_bipolar)
  7. expected lifespan for bipolars is reduced by 9.2 years (source: http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=about_statistics_bipolar)

each of these factors has been difficult to accept and a source of bitter anger.  some are more traumatic for me than others. out of all of them, the one that really got me in a bad way was (is) #5.  seriously, this part of bipolar fucks up everything.

having a family is a personal choice, along with all of the factors one considers when thinking about starting a family. ¬†to me, it was a deeply important goal because i had considered it an opportunity and privilege that would help me heal. ¬†let me explain. ¬†i have touched a bit on my early childhood here already but for simplicity’s sake let’s just say it was a goddamn freak show.

like many people, i wanted what i could not have. ¬†and i wanted it badly. ¬†as far back as i can remember, this started with a desire for a loving life partner. ¬†no one in my family seemed to have this one under their belt, and they still don’t. ¬†i admit i have spent an inordinate amount of time reading about, thinking about, observing, or practicing relationship skills. ¬†i have fostered characteristics and skills that would facilitate a loving relationship for as long as i can remember. ¬†i don’t tell many people this, but my career path and personal choices have all been made with a relationship and family in mind.

for many of my years, children were out of the question because i did NOT want to repeat history.  the possibility made me sick and there was no way i could allow that to happen.  you know that saying, like mother like daughter?  no phrase has scared the pants off of me more than this very one.  when unknowing people suggest my boyfriends look at my mother to see how i will end up, i shiver and hold back tears.

one thing was for sure, any and all children would NOT be had until i had a steady career and a steady marriage.  under no other circumstances was i willing to bring a child into this world.

i used to feel sorry for myself a lot. ¬†i’d see other people who clearly admired their parents. ¬†their mothers were actually…mothers and cared for them. ¬†those children were not seen as a burden or an inconvenience. ¬†importantly, their mothers¬†wanted to be mothers, to nurture and raise, to help and support. ¬†mother’s day is and was especially hard because the universe of possible awesome mom behaviors is advertised everywhere.

i remember the day i broke. ¬†i was shopping with an ex boyfriend from two years ago. ¬†we stopped in a williams & sonoma so he could take a look at gifts for his own mother, since it was right around mothers day. ¬†i hadn’t spoken to my mother in 6 months and that period would stretch to 2 years, so i was there and trying not to dwell on the periodic feeling that i was¬†gipped.

this store, however, had a big display in the front advertising the wonderful behavior of mom and oh don’t you remember when she was awesome and, you know, a MOM? ¬†bitter feelings flooded me and i was one big pity party, feeling sorry for myself because i would never have that.

then i had a beautiful epiphany. ¬†wait a tick, i thought, ¬†i may never get to have that mother…but i could certainly¬†be that mother. ¬†and with this thought my entire life changed.

seriously, it was that transformative. ¬†i no longer felt sorry for myself. ¬†i was able to let the past stay in the past. ¬†my focus shifted from what i don’t have to what i do have, and from my past to my future. ¬†it was a realization that shook me to my very core. ¬†a key part of it was the knowledge that i could create my own concept of motherhood, i could build it from the ground up. ¬†i could take all the very best parts i had seen from other people and try to synthesize them into a coherent person.

this practice wasn’t new to me; often i had to construct things completely from scratch because i didn’t have a model to work from. ¬†it has its benefits and costs. ¬†but it would work, and it would be lovely.

so now, bipolar disorder is throwing a wrench in my plans. ¬†remember the statistics:¬†with one bipolar parent, chances of a child having bipolar are 15-30%; with two bipolar parents, chances increase 50-75%. ¬†the idea of producing a child who will spend most of his or her life depressed, with a reduced life expectancy, a 1 in 5 chance of completed suicide is NOT what i had in mind when i was thinking about having kids. ¬†i can’t bear the idea.

so now, kids are likely out of the question.  in that case, why get married at all?  i mean, the marriage institution is (imo) really only so my children have security.

and if kids and marriage are out, then what the fuck have i been doing all these years?  what am i doing in a phd program?  had i known i was going to be diagnosed bipolar, i would have stuck to the more artsy stuff that i was passionate about instead of going and trying to be responsible.  dance.  painting.  sculpture. performing arts.

now i’m going to be paying off a fucking degree for years that i may not even get to use fully. ¬†the thing is, I JUST DONT KNOW. ¬†after all my careful thought and planning, bipolar has thrown me back into the void, where i don’t know what’s going to happen. ¬†i can’t make predictions and so i’m just stuck like a pig in mud.

and that, ladies and gentleman, pisses me off.


Online Suicide Help

http://unsuicide.wikispaces.com/Online+Suicide+Help#.T8aSKJ9TIYQ.twitter

‚ÄėMetabolic syndrome‚Äô in the brain: deficiency in omega-3 fatty acid exacerbates dysfunctions in insulin receptor signalling and cognition

‚ÄėMetabolic syndrome’ in the brain: deficiency in omega-3 fatty acid exacerbates dysfunctions in insulin receptor signalling and cognition.

The Metabolic Syndrome¬†http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0004546/is a phenomenon having to do with insulin resistance, meaning that the body’s utilization of insulin in the process of converting sugars to energy is blunted, and the energy is instead stored as fat. The abnormal conversion to fat also causes clogged arteries, leading to an increased risk of heart disease and stroke.

This article describes how rats which are fed a high fructose (fruit sugar) diet develop insulin resistance in the brain. Since the brain can only utilize glucose as its sole fuel, a malfunction of the insulin-glucose system is disastrous for cognition. This corroborates what we see in “real life,” that eating a bunch of sugary stuff makes us feel like crap after the high wears off. ¬†And mind you, this study used fruit sugar, which supports my rant to parents that the fruit juice they pour into the little darlings is no better for them than sugar water (gasp).

Interestingly, rats whose diet was lacking omega-3 fatty acids had a much worse time dealing with sugar-on-the-brain than rats who had normal omega-3 intake.  And even better, rats who were supplemented with omega-3s showed a protective effect from sugar overdose.

Does this mean that if we plan to pig out on chocolate (or grapes!) we should pop a few omega-3 caps beforehand to avoid the post-sugar crash?

Not really, but it does mean that we should take our intake of sweet foods seriously, and that includes fruit, which has always had such a good reputation as a “good for you” food. It is, in moderation, like everything else.

And it provides us with yet another good reason for eating foods high in omega-3 fatty acids, like fish and nuts (in moderation). Truly “brain foods.”

 


‚ÄėMetabolic syndrome‚Äô in the brain: deficiency in omega-3 fatty acid exacerbates dysfunctions in insulin receptor signalling and cognition

‚ÄėMetabolic syndrome’ in the brain: deficiency in omega-3 fatty acid exacerbates dysfunctions in insulin receptor signalling and cognition.

The Metabolic Syndrome¬†http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0004546/is a phenomenon having to do with insulin resistance, meaning that the body’s utilization of insulin in the process of converting sugars to energy is blunted, and the energy is instead stored as fat. The abnormal conversion to fat also causes clogged arteries, leading to an increased risk of heart disease and stroke.

This article describes how rats which are fed a high fructose (fruit sugar) diet develop insulin resistance in the brain. Since the brain can only utilize glucose as its sole fuel, a malfunction of the insulin-glucose system is disastrous for cognition. This corroborates what we see in “real life,” that eating a bunch of sugary stuff makes us feel like crap after the high wears off. ¬†And mind you, this study used fruit sugar, which supports my rant to parents that the fruit juice they pour into the little darlings is no better for them than sugar water (gasp).

Interestingly, rats whose diet was lacking omega-3 fatty acids had a much worse time dealing with sugar-on-the-brain than rats who had normal omega-3 intake.  And even better, rats who were supplemented with omega-3s showed a protective effect from sugar overdose.

Does this mean that if we plan to pig out on chocolate (or grapes!) we should pop a few omega-3 caps beforehand to avoid the post-sugar crash?

Not really, but it does mean that we should take our intake of sweet foods seriously, and that includes fruit, which has always had such a good reputation as a “good for you” food. It is, in moderation, like everything else.

And it provides us with yet another good reason for eating foods high in omega-3 fatty acids, like fish and nuts (in moderation). Truly “brain foods.”

 


I know this feeling all to well!

I know this feeling all to well!

Better

A few nights of decent sleep, and I feel quite good. It was really an unfortunate combination last week of getting my period after 3 months, stopping the medication, not sleeping enough, having lots of work to do and lots of sensory and emotional overload, all together. No wonder I was antsy and angsty and moody. 

I haven¬īt had any “anger attack” over the last days, not even close. I¬īm not worrying more about stuff than I did while still on the medication.¬†

And I feel generally serene and optimistic. What more can I ask for? 

I am sure a big part of this, other than to enough sleep, is also due to physical exercise. Over the last days I have been walking, cycling and doing quite heavy agricultural work (hoeing and planting and weeding, that kind of stuff) nearly daily. Outside. I¬īd love also to go running, but am afraid my joints will suffer under my weight. Still, might try it out soon, I remember very well that back in 1999 when I went off the Paxil, I ran every other day for an hour, and I really didn¬īt feel the withdrawal at all. Running kept me sane and healthy for many years, it was only when I started to put on weight and couldn¬īt run any more that my brain went off the road again.¬†

I really hope things continue this way, that would be wonderful. 

Life since our Panama Trip

I have not been feeling well at all lately, and it is due to many things, and being Bipolar doesn’t help. At All. As a matter of fact, it makes things much worse.

I have been on edge lately…firstly I want to say is Thank Heavens we decided to rent this house instead of buying it, we have had plumbing problems that resulted in not having water for a day & a half, dealing with a pain in the ass landlord [we had to find a plumber, because everyone he called wouldn’t work for him, he is that much of an asshole] and other things which just made me want to lose my shit. I have been trying so hard to keep it together, and it just seems like there is always something that seems to go just a little bit wrong and it has the potential to upset me for days on end…..and I am talking about the kind of upset that just makes my head & body hurt, I cry and then I want to just retreat and lie down with my Anti Stress Eye Pillow which has Lavender & Chamomile & Flax Seed inside of it, it is encased in a Pure silk pouch. I feel like a woman from Victorian Times, except that I don’t have a “Fainting Couch”. It is really quite pathetic….oh how I do hate myself.

I have not been getting along very well with my personal relationships, except for my Son, he is the bright spot…he always tells me “Mother, you are the best Mother anyone could ever have” and I get all choked up and I always reply “you are the best Son anyone could ever have.” He is such a precious little soul, highly intelligent and kind. I am so lucky to have such a sweet boy. We just had a parent-teacher mini conference where they handed out the grades for the first trimester and my Son has a 97% GPA, so he is an A+! His Teacher & the Principal told me that they think he is brilliant, having genius-like intelligence.[ there is talk about getting him tested for that, the Principal is going to recommend me to someone about that]¬† I am so proud of him, he really loves his School and he loves Science & Math excessively. He even does extra workbooks that I bought in BC at a Cool Child, it is a store where they have all educational stuff, from toys to books to home-schooling supplies. At home he swims like a little fish, he now can do somersaults in the pool and a handstand! We got it all on video with our digital camera, it was on Sunday that he mastered those 2 feats. He is also very single minded about things, he loves Lego & Hero Factory & Bionicles…..he is constantly coming up with new improved designs, and he regularly visits the Lego & other websites, after he has completed his homework, of course. He helps for me to remember things, and his presence always makes me smile.

As far as my other personal relationships go, well……..that is an entirely different kettle of fish……My Spouse has been having a hard time dealing with the Fool of a Landlord, the Plumber [who is an awesome guy, he used to be the Mayor of the Town that I live in] and of course, with me and the Bipolar Monkey on my back. I have made him very upset, and I honestly don’t really know why…..is it because I am so sensitive and fragile that he just can’t deal with my moods any longer? He has asked me more than once if I could just “stop being Bipolar” and that just kills me…..I get a pit in my stomach so big that you could fit the Grand Canyon in it……sometimes I get angry at him, he knows that it is impossible for me to not be Bipolar. I feel like it is very unfair of him to say that to me…..when I don’t get angry, I withdraw……and being alone with my own thoughts is not always the best thing, because my train of thoughts that are flying through my head sometimes get on the wrong track and that can be quite destructive. I have felt like hurting myself at times, but then I think about my Son…..and those thoughts seem to dissipate. Sometimes I wonder how I am going to go on, I know I have to but I don’t know how I am going to be able to do it.